Seven Ways to Keep Your Sanity and Make Smart Decisions

There is never a good time to get a divorce but if you are considering divorce or in the middle of one you may think you have chosen the absolute worst time.  You might be right.  So what can you do?

  1. Prioritize self-care. Go out for a walk, take an exercise class online, or simply close the door and give yourself time to decompress.      
  2. If you have kids and they are home from school make sure that they have a way to connect with friends. Kids often use school as an outlet to get away from uncertainty at home during a divorce. Consider relaxing limits on screen time to allow for virtual time with friends. 
  3. Use this time to plan for your future. Create a plan for where you want to be in one year, three years, and in five years and work on action items to achieve your goals.  Create a budget.  Make a list of all the things you’ve been meaning to do and start to work down that list.   
  4. Talk to a professional. Do you want to press pause or keep going?  Are the courts even open?  Work with your attorney, therapist, or other professional to make an informed decision. 
  5. If your financial situation has changed consider contacting a Certified Divorce Financial Planner to assess how a drop in the value of your home, investments, or potential income loss may affect your settlement agreement.
  6. If you are still living with your spouse under the cloud of separation create a schedule so that you each get a break.
  7. If you are living apart and co-parenting make sure you are on the same page. Discuss how you will handle a quarantine and other ways to keep your kids protected in this new environment.  

Above all recognize that this is a crisis for everyone and remember that you and your spouse (or ex) are both under stress. Your family will need to find ways to adapt and cope with another new, but temporary, reality.